Throughout the course of my life,
I have been fortunate enough to meet many different types of people; from different cliques, backgrounds, age-groups, personalities, etc.
Suffice to say, we always get along pretty well. For those who remain acquaintances, or those special few who turn into great friends :)
I always thought, making enemies, or having them at all, is so unnecessary! Still true btw ;x

But then again, maybe I was also blessed to have been raised properly, and in a healthy environment where friends all loved friends, there was hardly ever any petty high school drama nonsense where I grew up. Any problems were dealt with in a proper manner, and more ‘civil’, at the very least.

Looking back, I suppose it was inevitable that, while my social environment grew with time, I had to cross paths with some seriously vindictive, immature, borderline psychotic people.

The kind of people whose entire lives revolve around drama-rama. LOA, much.

The kind of people whom, at the beginning, bitches about your group and then later tries to befriend you at a dance audition. Seeing that they could not catch up with the choreographer’s moves at all, gave up and stood woefully at the back, we felt sorry for them and had to teach them so they’d be able to catch up. Fake and friendly all throughout, they reverted back to backstabbing-mode bitching about our group after the show. -_-
Yea I’ll be damned if they thought even for a moment that we wouldn’t find out.

And then, almost a year later of not crossing paths, she suddenly attacks me at a party.
No rhyme, no reason. Hm, and this is where the term ‘psychotic’ comes in, and insanely LOA -_-

Today, it’s been months since the incident, and we happen to cross paths again.

Locked eyes for a moment, and unfortunately, for the first time in my life,

I felt that the mere sight of someone (or something) could all of a sudden disgust you so much, it makes your gagging reflexes go haywire -_-

There is a sense of ugliness that goes beyond skin-deep. It’s quite tragic, really.

Today, it occurred to me that, while my principals have not changed, and I still think making enemies as often as changing your underwear is completely stupid,
having enemies is a very different thing.

Because now, I realize, there really *are* people in this world who do not deserve your friendship. They do not deserve your kindness, compassion, time or effort even.

And I will even try not to pity these people anymore.

So. Enemies? :) I can live with that.
Nobody likes having them, but it’s part and parcel of growing up.

1. juwita Says:
   April 5th, 2009 at 4:13 pm

   i feel u babe.
   sometimes in life…u meet a few too many ungrateful, dramatic childish people.
   don’t be bothered by them.

2. @ldo Says:
   April 6th, 2009 at 1:43 am

   good one thia. =) rock on

3. i e R Says:
   April 6th, 2009 at 10:46 am

   enemies? i eat them for breakfast… kinda yummy thou

   *the best weapon to make enemies miserable is to give a sweet smile at them, this will make them miserable whole day thinking why did u smile at them ;)

4. keShia* Says:
   April 6th, 2009 at 1:19 pm

   mmhmm! :)

5. S Says:
   April 6th, 2009 at 9:41 pm

   Oh, I feel you Cynthia.

   She was my BEST friend and knew every dark secret of mine. I don’t know when and how it went wrong, whether it is my fault or hers. All I know is that she went around back-stabbing me, putting the blame on me, bad-mouthed about my relationship, my family (!!), spread rumours, told lies, exposed my secrets while I kept quiet all along.
   Not because I am afraid of her, but because she is not even worth any effort on my part, anymore.

   I think it’s perfectly normal and inevitable that as we go on with our lives, we drift apart from our friends, whether because of differences or something else. What I really don’t understand is why can’t some people just..let go?

   But yes, I can’t agree more, it’s all part and parcel of growing up!

6. devil_undercover Says:
   April 8th, 2009 at 2:00 pm

   You know what’s the best revenge?

   Success.

   Yea, saw that on a fridge magnet on a TV show, haha.

   But yea. It’s true anyway. Plus knowing you’re so much better off and you have many other true friends. :)

7. Anonymous Says:
   April 10th, 2009 at 5:30 am

   hmm truth be told, there’s something about her that looks ugly and froths up from the inside. no matter how much she works out, puts on make up, or dresses up, i believe one’s soul (or lack of) will always shine through.

   yours shines cynthia :)

8. - j o d O i N k - Says:
   April 11th, 2009 at 7:46 am

   i agree that you’re better off!
   have in that kinda sticky situation before, makes me kinda weary now about trusting ppl,but life HAS to go on!I still stop and wonder, what would have happen if the i had given that person ANOTHER chance above the 2 chances to realise, but i guess not la…wasn’t worth it

   and OMG, the post that you linked to…
   was EXCATLY what i felt about that person!
   still playing tai-ka-che after sec school and not ACCEPTING the fact that we are alreday OUT of sec school!
   so yeah, i guess we’re better off!
   and i agree with commenter above, success will definately be the best revenge…

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