“Coffee & Convo” snagged off a term Alda used when he asked we’d hang out over the weekend. I like :)

Saturday was a good day :)
I don’t usually like back-to-back super busy giler babi days where I wake up, rush to somewhere, then rush somewhere else, then rush another-where else, then crash and burn at night
which was the case yesterday, but!
Yesterday was exceptionally great, and damn fulfilling

Woke up at noon (from the accumulated fatigue over the week) and had plans with Alda to come pick me up at noon itself, yikes! *kancheong get ready*

There were 2 junksales going on (is it just me or are there junksales like, every friggin’ week. wah abit overkill) But lucky i love junksales and will raid like nobody’s business if got mood, haha
And *hell yeaaa* my mood was so on yesterday ;)

Grabbed lunch @ Ms Read, BV II, and hurried on over to Showpink.
I’ve been to a lot of their junksales, usually packed like shit hence killing my shopping mood
(I don’t like crowds, some say I don’t like people) but it was friggin’ empty when I came in!
Quite a shocker, but no complaints from me though This meant ample time to ‘chaw’ through their massive heaps of treasure (sometimes trash) and the vendors weren’t busy so can easily make happy conversations with them
And I finally got the name of this one vendor whom I always chat with at every Showpink junksale, but never got to know his name until now. Haha, hello Hugo!
Also got to catch up with Tea&Sympathy owner Naomi as well, we’ve met briefly before and I think we both surprised each other by knowing each other’s names

Conversations aside, it goes without saying that I bought the most amazing stuff! which, in itself, would already make for a perfectly awesome day ;)

Later rushed on over to Threadszoo @ CapSquare KL.
I almost didn’t make it for this one, seeing it’s all the way in KL and the map honestly wasn’t very helpful. But thank god Alda knew the place! :)
Also wasn’t as packed as I thought it’d be, but again, that’s perfectly fine ;)
Kept bumping into super alot of familiar faces there, it was almost funny people I met by opening shop at Threadszoo 2, random vendors I remember from BijouBazaar, other people I know but don’t know how I know ‘em, (and vice versa)
but mainly to check out Luxanne and Michelle‘s booth over there :) *support support*

Also bought damn a lot of stuff. Wah best day ever man *content face*

Came home late evening and quickly rushed on over to the Streeting x Nike Sportswear Launch @ Pavillion which was pretty darn impressive I must say! Pictures will be up soon ;)

And the afterparty @ Cloth&Clef. Ok la here I was abit tayar pancit already, heh.
Lepaked with the boys from the event, and bumped into Zee of Kokokaina there who played before we arrived, so just chilled with her and guitarist/drummer Krishna for a bit. Zee is like, the sweetest girl ok :) and it turns out we have a lot in common than we think.

Hopped on over to Twentyone with Shervin, Michelle, Shannon and some peoples and my goodness I haven’t seen Shannon in like forever

I reckon I loved Saturday so much because it was a major all-day catch-up session with people I haven’t seen or really spoken to in a long time. As exhausting as that really is, it’s bloody fulfilling as well.

:)

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Eh ok I realise this is turning out to be one of those boring post on like “today i did this, did that, eat this, go there, the end” hahaha which is quite unlike me, but heck it, my bad

But here’s something seemingly interesting.

I got a text message last night,
it was from one of my customers of CSC, hence she has my contact number, and I suppose she read my blog post on the break up. Which stirred up quite a controversy although I made *sure* I didn’t reveal any details.
People started getting upset at ALL the three parties for god knows what reason
But that’s human nature I guess. People loves a little drama rama, and with no details given they resort to speculation.

Ok so not the point.

The text message to me was about her recently breaking up from a 5-year relationship and she feels like she can’t go through with this, can’t get back on her feet like I did.

And this reminded me of what my bestie Mingshen and I spoke of long ago.
She said to me, “Cyn, something I really admire about you is your strength when it comes to heartaches and breakups.”

And this was what I told her.

(This goes out to everyone who suffered from a recent heartache. Whether you’re a boy or a girl. Break up 101 wtf)

Back in high school I had girl friends who suffered from break ups, and they went through this whole ordeal of moping, crying, depression, drugs and alcohol, calling him back only to be shot down again, repeat cycle, wash, rinse, repeat.
And this whole ordeal could last for months.
And it pissed me off to see these girls so upset, these are my friends whom I really care about!

But I could not for the life of me understand why they put themselves through all that emotional torture. I’m sure to a certain extent it was uncontrollable, but I believe if you allow yourself to be tortured, then it’s really your own choice.

Step one starts with you.

If you can’t get it into your own head to move on and get over it, you probably never will.

And with that I don’t mean you’re not allowed some time to wallow and grieve, moving on definitely takes time!
But within that time period, get it into your head to NEVER reaching that low point,
never resort to seeing him, calling him to beg him to take you back, or to even hear his voice for that matter.
You’re in the process of getting over him, the last thing you need is any recollection of the boy himself.

Take all the time you need. Cry it out, have some healthy alone time, watch Grey’s Anatomy reruns with a big bowl of ice cream (read: comfort food)
and most importantly, surround yourself with the people who love you your friends,
your family, your dog, everyone! People who make you laugh til you’re blue in the face
I don’t think many of them knew this but that seemingly innocent silly karaoke night at Melbourne helped me tremendously with dealing with the break up that happened only a couple of nights back. And I had the time of my life that night with those crazy people :)

Secondly, immerse yourself with things to do. Always keep yourself busy!
Pursue your hobbies, go to the gym more often, concentrate on your studies/assignments, or work frickin’ hard and get that promotion

Before you know it, you’ll realise you’ve got new priorities in life, new loves and new passions. And the ex is just a bittersweet old chapter in your life ;)

So believe me when I say this. In due time, you’ll be fine Jennifer :)

Currently listening to: Mat Kearney – Breathe In, Breathe Out
(My current favo song at the mo, which apparently changes every couple of days but strangely this song seems really appropriate for this circumstance)

1. serene Says:
   August 10th, 2008 at 10:33 am

   you should be a journalist on Ask Thelma :)

2. Eudora Says:
   August 10th, 2008 at 2:28 pm

   Wow, what a fun Saturday you’ve got there! I wish they had more stuffs selling like the junksales over here in KK. But too bad. Huhu :(

   Btw, I like the way you talk about handling break-ups. Which is sOo true!

3. YC Says:
   August 11th, 2008 at 10:39 am

   and i’m so proud of you, girl.

   keep our conversation by the pool in mind hun:)

4. @ldo Says:
   August 11th, 2008 at 2:53 pm

   imma copy right coffee and convo…..

5. Cynthia Says:
   August 12th, 2008 at 6:04 pm

   serene: haha..

   eudora: none of that in kk? YOU SHOULD START ONE! a junksale i mean! no really, someone’s gotta start it for it to grow :)

   jenn: haha it could’ve been any jennifer, but you kinda blew your cover there, heh :) take care love

   yc: haha yea, definitely keeping things in mind ;) and thanks.

   aldo: too late! ;)

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